The Ex Factor: How to Survive the Drama

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(c) Can Stock Photo Inc. / wacker Wash the dirty Laundry, But DO NOT Air it Out Online
I know, I know it is hard. Facebook and our other social networking sites have become like mini-personal diaries for the majority of us. Sometimes we are just so frustrated about the pain and agitation an ex can bring us that we don’t realize just by talking about him or her you are leaving the door open to opinions, arguments, and the blame game. I know you see it as personal encouragement; I can’t lie and say I haven’t been guilty of doing the same thing. You want the world to know how much of a jerk he was. You want the world to know how much of a skank she is, but it will only keep the relationship going. Sadly, most exes feel that any attention is enough attention to keep hope alive. If you have to get some things off your chest, I would suggest you do it the old fashioned way and purchase yourself a pen and pad. Hey at least this way you can keep yourself and your reputation intact.

(c) Can Stock Photo Inc. / Kzenon Don’t Feed Into the Hands of Jealous Jell-O
You have broken up, he keeps calling, showing up everywhere he knows you frequent and you have been ignoring him. What’s next? He finds someone he can use as bait to get a reaction out of you. Don’t do it. At the end of the day you will look foolish to his new fling and it’s only an attempt to get you to call him back. Even if it’s to give him a piece of your mind letting him know how much you don’t give a damn, don’t do it. In the middle of the argument he will make you feel like an idiot for leaving and make you feel like a horrible person when you know you made the right decision. In some instances, even the new fling will tempt you with subliminal remarks about you or going out of their way to let you know that they are together. The only reason he or she would do this is because your ex talks you up then talks you down creating a competition and jealous Jell-O so they can feel better about being left. Laugh at it. Ignore it. Move forward.

(c) Can Stock Photo Inc. / Andres The 6 Month Rule: Ignoring Ignorance
It is a shame that as adults some can’t grasp the concept of being. I mean after all, your ex has probably by this point made it hard for you to even be friends with them once the smoke clears. Here is something that no one has probably ever told you: The one who gets left never gets over it, so they live their lives trying to get even. Ignore the ignorance. Go cold turkey from your ex for at least 6 months. No Facebook. No mutual friends. No checking on them to see if they are handling the rejection that you so bluntly served them. No phone calls. No text messages. No lunch. And most importantly NO SEX. 6 months is enough time to allow some-one to see the error of their ways and even though it’s over for the two of you, hopefully they can become a better person for the next relationship that they enter into. If your ex threatens your life, please don’t take them lightly and call your local police. Rejection is a hard pill to swallow and some people can only take doses in a liquid form. Be careful.

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